Derek and Andi have been married for more than 10 years. Everything was going smoothly between them. Derek has worked on a cruise ship ever since he was single while Andrea is an events organizer. When the COVID19 pandemic struck, Derek got laid off from work and was sent back home. Andrea’s events got cancelled and she had no choice but to give her clients a refund. Things got tough and bills started to pile up. With all the pressure they were going through, hindi na nila napansin na unti-unti na rin silang napapalayo sa isa’t-isa. Their relationship turned sour, that it almost reached separation.
“Feeling ko hindi siya (Derek) nakakatulong sa sitwasyon. Instead of thinking about a solution, mas inuuna pa niyang uminom at magmukmok.”, says Andi.
“Tuwing umaga, puro problema na lang naririnig ko sa kanya. Nawala na yung pagiging sweet at maasikaso niya. Kami nga lang magkasama sa bahay pero parang sobrang gulo at ingay araw-araw.” Derek complains.
Nakaka-relate ka ba kina Derek at Andi? Do you feel that being stuck at home with your partner during the lockdown has suddenly become a burden to you? Nahihirapan ka bang mag-maintain ng relasyon under the ‘new normal’?
Derek and Andi’s story is just one of the many Corona-related breakups to emerge from this year-long global crisis. While other couples have been seeing their ‘confinement’ as a ‘renewed honeymoon’, many have also been struggling to make their relationships thrive amidst uncertainties, limitations/lack of opportunities and other difficulties. The ASEAN Post, in a January 6 article, reported that some Asian countries such as China, Japan, Indonesia and Malaysia have been experiencing a ‘divorce wave’ or a spike in the rate of breakups and separation among its couples.
Given the circumstances, how can you as a couple cushion the pandemic’s impact on your relationship? You might want to consider these steps on how to spice up your pandemic love life:
1. Talk. Good communication is essential to keep your personal connection stronger and healthier. Kung nasanay kayong ‘hi’ at ‘bye’ na lang tuwing magkikita sa bahay, bakit hindi ninyo simulang mag-usap ngayong marami na kayong time? Mas madali kayong magkakaintidihan kung mag-uusap at mag-i-express ng nararamdaman sa isa’t-isa lalo na pag may nasabi o nadinig kayong nakakagalit o nakakasakit. Let your partner know.
2. Don’t miss the thrill. Increased time at home means more time to show even small love gestures. You can prepare a home-cooked meal para makabawi naman sa mga fast food meals na kinain nyo nung pumapasok pa kayo sa trabaho; give each other a massage; hug, kiss or say ‘I love you’ more often. Siguradong mapapa-hashtag relationship goals ka sa kilig!
3. Connect with your friends or loved ones. Staying in touch with your respective friends and loved ones through social media is still important. Minsan, kailangan nyo rin ng space and privacy to break the monotony. Maintain self-care and don’t allow yourself to be overwhelmed by too much togetherness.
4. Take a walk. Walking is good for your health and gets you in better shape. It’s also known as a mood booster and stress reliever. Do something out of your comfort zone. Tama na ang puro upo! Ask your partner to walk with you and make it your new habit. Pwede rin namang H.H.W.W. (Holding Hands While Walking).
5. Plan together. Don’t be restricted from doing the things you want to do dahil nasa bahay lang kayo. Sa totoo lang, nakaka-drain ng energy ang pandemic na’to kaya madalas pati relationships ay naaapektuhan na rin. So, why don’t you shift your focus into more productive things? Like planning your future and financial goals. Dahil pag panatag ka, you can love more and worry less.
Define love with your actions and choices. Siguro, mas mababawasan ang alinlangan ninyo bilang mag-asawa kapag panatag kayo at alam nyong secure at protected ang inyong pagsasama at ang buong pamilya. Share a commitment to make your relationship work and survive in the face of a health crisis or a financial turmoil. Have the same priorities.
Saving for the future, building an investment plan, or getting a dependable health or life insurance coverage, not just for yourself but also for your spouse or your entire family, can help lessen your worries. Walang masyadong takot at pangamba. Ang Paramount Direct, ready na maging third-party in your relationship! But in a good way, of course. We can help you reassess your future plans and life goals as a couple by providing insurance products that will fit your budget and needs.Just visit www.paramountdirect.com para malaman kung ano ang swak sa inyong pagsasama.